A friend of mine recently told me a very sad tale. After almost twenty years of marriage, she and her husband are getting a divorce. According to her, he has had a pornography addiction for the entire time, something she did not know about when they were married. It really disturbed her, especially after they started having children, and even though he tried to hide it, she would find things on their computer or stashed away in hiding places that made her feel belittled and unwanted. One thing lead to another, and they ended up in a trial separation wherein she ended up committing adultery with a family friend, also going through a tough time with his wife. Things being irreconcilable at this point, the contacted a divorce lawyer and filed for divorce a few weeks ago.

It started out amiable enough, but as the proceedings have continued, things have gotten more difficult. On the one hand, she cites his addiction as a form of infidelity that lead her to committing her own act of indiscretion. With all of the finger pointing going on, the division of property has become as selfish as the placing of blame, and if it was not for the divorce lawyer, I think it would be almost impossible to straighten out. I hope that for the sake of their children, everything can be straightened out soon so that everyone can establish some sort of normalcy. I really feel for them all, and hope that there is some peace to be found in time.